I know, it has been a while since I posted. But your going to really enjoy this one.
Ok, so my husband has this friend. We will call him Jim.
You see Jim is, what he claims to be, is an earth person, living off the land and building from the forest around him. He uses an underground spring for water and hunts for his meat.
Sounds great huh? NOT!
He seems like a nice guy and you think, upon first meeting him, that he has his life together.
But when you get to really know him, you find him to be a 42 year old man, living in the middle of the forest, 2 kids that he has nothing much to do with and refuses to work for a living.
Jim smokes only when someone is visiting and they smoke, he drinks but only when someone visiting has drinks. He is a class act mooch!
He has 2 boys, one has been living with the grandfather his entire life and the other , far away with his mom.
He does not pay child support or anything like that. When his youngest comes to visit, he puts him to work as if he were nothing more then a laborer to him.
When he comes to visit us, you just can not get rid of him. He sits around, spends the night, drinks your alcohol and eats your food. Sure you might squeeze a thank you out of him once in a while but thats it.
A man full of false promises. "I will help you out" will be written on his headstone. We have asked him for a few things, and the only time he will really help you is if you offer to pay him or if there is something in it for him.
Jim's youngest is 15 and visiting right now. Can someone please tell me, why do I have to "babysit" this teenager? His father lives in the middle of the forest, seriously, I ask you, what trouble can he get into up there? But yet his father seems to think he can not be trusted there.
Jim's youngest son is smart and a nice kid, but his mother and father are saying he is into drugs. I do not see it. I have 2 boys, both in their 20's and gone through the drug thing with them, I know the difference! His parents talking about him all the time cost this poor kid his girlfriend of 1 year.
His oldest just turned 18 and is about to have his first kid within the month. Living off his girlfriends parents, driving drunk, stealing and just an all around bad kid! The real joke is that his girlfriend and my youngest were dating for a few months. All I can say is thank god they broke up. It did not take her long to hook up with Jims son and get pregnant.
So, what do you do with a "friend" like this. He is my husbands friend but I personally can not stand him. I have a hard time looking him in the eye because I do not trust him. His father and oldest son are lying theives and he is just slightly better then them but not by much.
Now, I am stuck watching his kid, who he drops off 45 minutes earlier JUST so HE can visit with us. And when he comes to get his son, it is another 1-2 hour visit.
Yesterday I took jim's son out for lunch, well his dad was not happy about that because no one thought to wait for HIM to come too.
Hey, I put this child to work, we weeded my garden in the morning, went to lunch, I paid to get his hair cut, ok actually trimmed and paid him $20 for helping me with the weeds.
We had an amazing talk and maybe, just maybe if his parents actually were to listen to him, they would know he is not what they think. I truely feel bad for him, he is a goog kid who's parents paint him as a druggie and the devils spawn. Btw,, he looked me right in the eyes yesterday when I asked him, "what drugs are you one hun?"
He replied, "seriously, I use to smoke up alot but I have not done any drugs for 2 years now". You know what, I really do believe him.
Any suggestions on how to get his idiot parents to see who he really is? Any idea how to keep Jim away and out of MY life?
Oh yes, this kid can not see 5' in front of his face, his parents knows he needs glasses, their response to this is that if he needs them, he can pay for them. He is 15 and the last I checked, under 16 he is still the responsibility of them.
There is alot more that I could go on about but this was the one thing that has been really bothering me. If you are mature enough to make kids, be mature and take care of your responsibilites. This guy can not even take care of himself!
Ok, bored ya all enough.. back soon!
2 comments:
First of all i think it's great that your taking this kid under your wing (when he visits) It's such a make or break age for them. I know i'm a youth worker. About the friend, i'd tell my husband if you wanna see him go over to his house but not here. Tell him y. If you he listens which he should if he knows what's good for him. He should consider your feelings. Is he influencing your husband at all???
Thank you!
Actually I was pretty choked when he dropped him off this morning.
His son had his Aunt cut his hair much shorter then what he asked the hairdresser to do. I just looked at his dad and said "wow, what a waste of $20.. thanks guys".
His dad just looked at me and laughed.
And what irks me even more is that he keeps bringing his son here with an empty stomach. I have never seen in my life, a 15 year old with the ferocious appetite that he has.. lol Good thing I stocked up on cereals!
As for my husband.. Oh yes, Jim has some influence over him. But since Jim really does not have a "home" and basically lives where ever someone allows him to stay, he can not just go to Jims and hang out.
Again, what those two knuckle heads do is their business, I just do not want to see his son used and abused like he is.
I am learning to speak up more to his dad about things.. Kind of put him in his place today! lol
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