Anniversaries

Is it me or am I just totally lost when it comes to special events?

I was raised that when a special day comes, you think ahead, you buy your cards and gifts in advance. Think about what you want to do for or with the person on that special day.

Well you see, my friend is married to a man who thinks that Birthdays, Christmas and Anniversaries should be spent at home, no need to do anything special. Just veg at home type of thing.


I personally love buying gifts, the expression on someones face when you give it to them. Or buying cards, I always stand there forever trying to pick the best one I can find.

So when their anniversary came up, all Julie could think of was, how can she could do up their anniversary in such a manner that would make her husband happy? No buying gifts, a dinner or hotel stay, which is what they normally did on these days.

So, she decided to make a Surf and Turf dinner at home, Prime rib and seafood and of course wine. She worked like a dog preparing this meal. They ate, they laughed and then all went to hell in a hand basket.

Julie never saw it coming, the blowout that came not soon after dinner sent her head spinning! You see he is an accountant and is always buried in his books or computer. I guess he had been working all day and when 5pm came along, she figured he would stop working and spend some time with her.

But that did not happen! Instead, after all the dishes were done, she went into his office to offer him another glass of wine, he accepted a new glass with a smile. When she was standing there, she made a comment, "Well I guess I lost you today to that client and now to this client".

That apparently infuriated him. So he came out of his office with a vengance and it turned into a full blown war between the two of them... on their anniversary. Heck he even threatened to take back the card he had given her.

So I see things from her side, as a married woman I would want to be wined and dined and pampered on my anniversary. But to pick fights with her because she was upset that he was not spending time with her is just terrible.

I am not sure but I have to wonder if there is not something deeper going on with them? It just seems that on a day that you should be celebrating the date you married, it should be wanting to spend time with each other. She said the only hug that was exchanged, she intiated and the only kiss was a peck.

Of course, she knows work is work but when the day is done, he could have made a commitment to close the office and spend the rest of the day with her.

What do you think? Any ideas or opinions would help her greatly as I will forward them on to her. She knows what I think of the situation but she won't listen to me.