Immediate Family

So my post yesterday spoke about a brother who has been causing havoc between me and my family.

Well it would seem that the last 49 years of my being there for them all, helping whenever I can and making sure they had updates and pictures of the grandkids was all for not.

The brother who was out of everyones lives for 15 years has managed to make the entire family to not speak with me now.


He was not there with my father passed away. In fact when my mother gave me my dads watch to give to my brother back in 2005, I ended up having to pay him $300 just to be able to keep him from selling it to someone else for his drug money.

He did not even want the Obit or anything about my fathers death. He was not there for my mother in her time of need. But all of a sudden he is the "good" son because he is going back to church.

John Wayne Gacey went to church, he was a serial killer. But did going to church make him a good person? lol

So I was left no other choice but to send a letter by mail to my mother telling her that I will not be sucked into my brother dream world where he is the only one who tells the truth and we are all liars.

In the letter I also copied and pasted the recent threats he sent to my kid and myself, saying he would be coming to beat me up if I did not shut my mouth. But again, he somehow is able to twist what he did and get out of the hot water he should be boiling in right now.

What else can I do, I do not want anything to do with him. My mother brought him back into my life by force and then she allowed him to move in with her.

BTW, he has been living with her since Dec 23/11 and still does not have a job and still sends tons of nasty emails to his ex and involves his 10 year old son in his fights.

But again, he is a good guy right?

So after 49 years, I am on the outside looking in, my sister will not respond to my emails, my mom just hangs the phone up on me when I say something she does not want to hear.

I even went as far as to get a Peace Bond placed on him due to his recent threats that I received in email just 4 days ago.

The police said they would be going to my moms house and speaking with him, telling him he can not contact me anymore and that he is to stay away from the city where I live.

Now this has embarassed my mother I am sure. She is a very private person and I know she did not like it that the police came to her door. My god, what will the neighbors think is all she can think of. It is all about the image with her and what people think.

This is why she has spent her entire life sweeping issues under the rug, hanging up on the phone and such when something is said she does not want to hear. She is much happier living with her head in the sand apparently.

I have never been this way. I have always been an open book, what you see is what you get, nothing to hide. I am human after all and people who care about me accept me for the way I am.

So, do I just walk away and let his run their lives and manipulate them or do I keep fighting to make them see him for what he is and what he is doing?

I need suggestions here desperately.